“I’ve always wanted to be an adjective.” — Lady Gaga
In all my blunt Russian honesty, I cannot claim that I seek inspiration from the most popular cultural events. I don’t have E! looping in the background (I don’t even own a fuckin’ TV, the nerd that I am!); and never have I laid my eyes on the crafty work by Perez Hilton and the likes.
This year, however, since my pursuit of a self-publishing career as a blogger, I did have to get with the times a lil’ bit. But even when I tweet (and I do so with discipline, on the hour — the nerd that I am!), I don’t stick around that social medium for the latest gossip. A handful of fellow bloggers feed me their daily bits directly into my email; and when I do read, I’d rather get my fill via the New York Times’ op-ed pages or a quick bathtub read of Entertainment Weekly (I call it Entertainment — Quickly!). Because at least by then, the recent pop-cultural events and persons have been digested by someone else’s intellect and their validity has been established; at which point, I can decide whether or not to invest my own braincells in pursuit of self-education on that topic. Some may call it snobbism. I call it: selective know-how.
Actually, scratch that. “In all my blunt Russian honesty”, I should call it Being Ancient.
Just the other day, a honey — a total cutie, a lovely, a boo — offered to fix me up with one of his friends. I chuckled, of course; but when he interviewed me on my preferred age group, I reluctantly spat out a demographic I’ve established for myself back in my 20s:
“A four-year difference, both ways.”
The cutie’s wheels began spinning: “That makes it… 28 to 36?…” (He gave me an elevator gaze, head to toe.) “Nah! 28 is too young for you!” he concluded. “I mean: I — AM 28! NO WAY!”
Casually, I had to lean myself against the exposed brick wall behind me in order to not double over from his brutal evaluation. Truth be told though: The cutie was right. I AM starting to feel if not ancient — or well-lived in — then decidedly moving toward the middle-aged chapter of my life. Perhaps, it is time to stop playing with boys in sandboxes — and get myself “a real man”, whatever the Dickens that means.
But when the cutie began interviewing me on the topic of my occupation (on behalf of my future husband — a.k.a. “the real man”), I found myself struggling with a temptation to give him a mellower version of myself.
“Oh yeah? You’re a blogger? What do you blog about?” the cutie was on a mission.
“Um… Relationships… ALL kinds of relationships.”
“Um…” (I had to grasp for my courage for a sec.) “Sure. Sometimes.”
The matchmaking never really took place, my comrades. (Hmm. Shocker.) But the slightly brutal chat with the cutie made me wonder about my chances of getting paired-up during this era of pursuing my professional aspirations. I mean, I myself don’t know many “real men” who could introduce a sex-blogger to their mother. So, I’m thinking: Until the money starts rolling-in and I single-handedly yank myself up to a higher financial demographic, I’m just gonna have to remain un-paired-up. Un-matched. Un-figured-out. But thank you for your consideration.
But “in all my blunt Russian honesty” (phew: quoting myself gives me a hard-on!), I must accept the fact that while chasing a dream, I am in a dire need of manufacturing a whole other persona. And I’m not just talking about a stage name here, my comrades; or a pen-name, in my writerly case. I’m talking about pimping myself out as someone a lot more fierce than the private person adored by her friends and lovers.
Because in this day and age of self-producing and self-promoting opportunities, one must LIVE a dream — BE a reincarnation of that very dream — not just CHASE it. Chasing it, I’m afraid, just no longer cuts it. And here, from my very conservative, old-fashioned research of the current pop-culture, I must bring up a very recent phenomenon common among female artists, specifically.
This is an era quickly overwhelmed by the emergence of perpetually self-reinventing women who are bold and fearless — via their fictional personas:
– Let’s start with my personal muse Rihanna, whose hair-color change inspires the women of the entire nation. (Just yesterday, I’ve encountered half a dozen hairstyles of that RiRi-Red shade.) But every time I bring her up in my female circles, it is guaranteed that someone will object to her obnoxious devotion to the topic of sex (an objection I rarely hear applied to the lyrics of Kanye West or 50 Cent.) Hmm.
– Then, there is the dual split of an artist formerly known as Beyonce. In ’08, this fully-established, already commercially successful singer emerged as yet another persona when she released an album titled I Am… Sasha Fierce. To most, that album was know for the anthem of All the Single Ladies. I, however, was immediately fascinated by the dot-dot-dot portion of its title. In that ellipsis, I hear a woman not only looking for her new identity, but the courage she must summon in order to deliver her message — via that identity.
– Finally, there is the magnificently insane, ultra vain (or is she vain-less?), brilliant, ever-so-changing force of nature — and art! — Lady Gaga. There is really nothing tamed about this one, is there? There is no room for any ellipses. In the case of Lady Gaga, there is no private persona. She IS… She is more than “IS”, actually: Lady Gaga — is “IS”-ness herself.
So, is that what it takes?
In all my blunt Russian honesty, I don’t want a career of an anonymous artist: I’m too vain for that. Neither do I desire being tamed into a more easily digestible artist with a pseudonym who can than be described as the “Next-So-and-So”. I want to be… FIERCE. SUCCESSFUL — and fierce. And in order to accomplish that, I’m starting to learn that not only must I develop a thicker skin — I must get myself a whole new one. As for the old skin, it’s just gonna have to be shed and left behind (for now), with all of its attached desires to be completely understood, embraced, liked and loved by a “real man” — and all kinds of others.
“What’s point?” you may wonder, my cuties.
Take it away, Gaga:
“The true luxury of my success is that I can do it all on my own terms now, even though the roller-coaster ride is still going. [But now I own the roller coaster.] I own the whole theme park, actually.”