Okay, my New Yorkers: Avert your eyes here. I’m gonna bitch a lil’:
Where the fuck is my sun, LA-LA?
This tan-o-rexic is seriously freaking out here! How in the world am I going to carry on with my image of an ethnically ambiguous honey who attracts the gazes of dem white boys and brothers alike, if I let my skin lose the shade I’ve been working on so hard this summer? Besides, everyone gets a much more mellow version of me after I’ve seared my skin under the cancerous rays. So, really, my tan — is good for everyone.
(Hmm. Where is my Not Like button ‘round here?! Not Like. Not Like at all, LA-LA!)
As if the life of a single girl in this city wasn’t hard enough! First of all, everyone in LA-LA, regardless of their occupation, acts as if the entertainment industry is their money-maker. In order to afford a life in this expensive city, we all work insanely long hours (even and especially those of us who choose to be self-employed); and it takes an equal amount of dedication to we wedge in some sort of a social life in between those 16-hour days that reek of production jobs.
(For the single ladies on the hunt: The men who work those bloody production jobs are quite easy to pick-out. Beware: They’re overstressed workaholics with quickly graying hair, chronic jitters acquired from serious dozes of caffeine, with a special talent of juggling several mobile devices and alcohol drinks with Red Bull. They also tend to be overly dramatic when they don’t get the answer they want; because unlike for the rest of us: Their time. IS. Money.)
But when we do get out for the sake of recreational — or procreational — activities, we are confronted with further challenges of this vast city. No matter who you are or where you come from, everyone’s immediate beef with LA-LA is: The distance. Because this city spans for over 500 square miles that include mounts and valleys, ghettoes and beaches. It can be a pretty mother fucker though; but we all would enjoy the ride a bit more, if it weren’t for the world-famous Los Angeles traffic. (This traffic, by the way, is the very reason I’ve chosen to be self-employed; because when trying to get to my receptionist gig with its 8:30 in-time a few years back nearly gave me a heart attack and forever ruined my profanity censor. Oh yes, sire: Driving in my passenger seat — is not for the weak of heart, or for the tender of ears.)
It takes a special amount of expertise and temper to get to places on time. But when in pursuit of a social life, one does have a choice to evaluate whether or not the event — or the person — is worth going the distance. Brutal, ain’t it? Yep. I would never say it to a player’s face, but if he resides in the Valley, he and I — are just not meant to be. Especially with these current gas prices! Yeah. Nyet: I don’t do the Valley. (I barely do Burbank, yet even then I cringe.)
And don’t even get me started on our City’s parking regulations: It’s an exercise in deductive reasoning! I’ve been known to deconstruct those poles with three-to-four plaques about permits and street cleaning and towing zones — for ten mins, easily! Nowadays, if I’m ever late to a date, I don’t blame it on traffic. I just roll my eyes and wipe my forehead:
“Phew. Those parking signs!”
Anyway. So, say you’ve arrived to your date safely and somewhat on time. You’ve shared a meal. The player has walked you to your car (which hopefully has NOT been towed by then). What do you next? Ahem (insert an cringe): Not taking a walk, that’s for sure! We don’t walk ’round here. Because there is no better way to attract trouble than taking a stroll in pretty much any neighborhood. Sure, you could drive yourselves to a park, but there aren’t many of those here either. Besides, in the eve, most of them become a camping ground for this city’s homeless; and something tells me, you don’t wanna disturb their sleep. So, why don’t you just grope each other against that safely parked car of yours; then, say, “Night-night,” and drive off while texting sexy messages to each other? Fun.
With all of these factors considered, dating becomes a tricky and quite a stressful thing in this City of Angels. But the one thing you cannot do — is leave your plans up in the air. Because there are way too many factors that can distract both of you and detour your coffee date so far off, you’ll never get to it.
Last night, for instance, a cutie was making plans with me via texting; and oh, how intense he sounded! (Call me old-fashioned, it would be my personal preference for him to pick-up that same phone and call me. But then, I’ve lived through so many failed date plans and flaky arrangements, that I wasn’t getting my hopes up in the first place.) But the player was very persistent — and quite specific: He established the time, the date, the place AND the duration of our coffee date. When I cracked a joke at his expense, this LA-LA native texted:
“I may be young, but I’m still a man. I am very specific about what I like.”
Mkay then! Sounds like someone’s been thrown for a loop a coupla times in his dating life; but yes, sir! I’ll see you on Friday, at 17:36 Pacific time, on the South-East corner of Doheny and Sunset.
Now, I don’t want to ruin your party any further, my kittens, but this is not just a matter of my cunty-ranty opinion. Apparently, official studies have been conducted on the topic of our strife and their conclusion is: Dating in LA-LA — sucks!
I personally still have some hope, but according to this bit (forwarded to me by a bicoastal comrade), our city is actually the worst for any romantically recreational — or procreational — activities. Why? Learn about it:
“Anthropologists have noticed a statistic that correlates nicely with the social and sexual permissiveness of a population. It’s called the sex ratio — the number of men for every 100 women. In places where the sex ratio is low (i.e. excess of women over men), social morals are relaxed, women go out a lot, and everyone has a ball. Where the sex ratio is high (i.e. excess of men), people go out less and attitudes are more conservative.”
According to this blog — not written by yours cunty-truly, but by a man (!) — LA-LA’s excess of men makes our dating life quite hard to navigate. (And you’d think that for a single girl this imbalance in sex ratio would be a good thing. Damn. Can’t a kitten get a break?)
So, instead of waiting for our now officially sucky dating scene to improve, I personally choose to entertain myself. Hence: Where the fuck is my sun, LA-LA? Seriously.